32 words of wisdom: A birthday gift from me to you!
Today, as I turn 32, I reflect on some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way.
In the spirit of giving, I’d like to share 32 words of wisdom with you.
Shoot me a message on IG or Facebook letting me know what resonated with you the most.
May these insights bring you comfort, inspiration, and motivation as you navigate life’s journey.
I hope some of these words of wisdom resonate with you and add value to your life.
Remember, life is a journey and we’re all in it together.
Cheers to another year of growth, learning, and living life to the fullest.
1. Nature is medicine
As a kid, I never fully appreciated the beautiful property we lived on. As I have gotten older I stand in awe every time I look at this beautiful property and send literal praises for getting to live here. I mean can you relate to being mesmerized by a tree and your teenagers think your screws are loose?
2. Boys really can’t just be your friend
My husband was my best friend from the school bus days, through high school, and now we are married and have the most beautiful blended family. I thought I was proving my Dad wrong and that failed happily ever after. Haha
3. Traumas and past experiences slowly and surely come to the surface
I realized only this past February that I nearly drowned as a four-year-old child and although no one told me it explained why I had an extreme fear of water on my face. I only learned this after I overcame that fear in Costa Rica this year. Trust your body and lean into what it is trying to tell you.
4. Your physical, emotional, and mental health has to be a priority
As a Mom, Bonus Mom, Wife, and Entrepreneur. I hit massive burnout physically in 2018 and it is no longer an option or luxury. It is a must! Make YOU a priority and everything around you will benefit from it.
5. Statistics do not define you!
Despite the statistics as a teen mom who graduated High School with an 8-month-old baby in the stands. I am living out my version of success. I am doing what I have been called to do, have the ability to master my time to show up intentionally for my family, and get to support other women in doing the same. Don’t let other peoples opinions or the statistics rule your future.
6. You can become a cat person
I never thought I would or could love an animal so much. Our cat 8 (Leah was 3 and learning her numbers when we named him) has been a blessing to our family for nearly 11 years. He is the freaking most cuddly, adorable bundle of greatness. Ask anyone who has met him and do yourself a favor and go adopt a cat. Best decision I have ever made when it comes to pets.
7. Life is short
I lost my 17-year-old baby sister in a tragic accident in 2015. We were close, we lived within walking distance of each other for all but 3 years of her life. The loss that impacted our family opened my eyes to how I was spending my precious hours. Morgan is why I am an entrepreneur today! Stop waiting and start creating a life on your terms.
8. The people who want to truly clap for you will
Stop forcing relationships and giving precious time and energy to things that drain you. Instead, invest your time, money, and energy into putting yourself in the rooms that will love, support, and challenge you.
9. You are the Master of your Money
Getting out of debt in 2019 and enduring the long 3 years of sacrifice and working multiple jobs opened my eyes to how I want to appreciate money, and how I want to use it to fuel my life rather than be a slave to it. If you are in a difficult place financially I want you to know that their is light at the end of the tunnel but it does require some hard ass work to get there.
10. God gives you signs all the time
Once I opened my heart and mind up to receiving his signs, gifts, and tugs is when everything shifted. Slowing down enough to hear his messages is a must to live a fulfilled life. Give yourself some intentional time and space each day to be still and have space to receive what is trying to be shared with you.
11. Your best friend can also be your parent
My Dad is my best friend. I know some people may find that weird but I give zero shits. He is my rock, constant support, calls me on my BS when I need it, and makes me laugh harder than anyone else on earth. He is my human and I would chill with him over my other friends any day.
12. You don’t have to stay
Leaving my marriage and the father of my daughter was not an easy decision. I was a scared 19-year-old girl with no job or money. I went door to door asking to clean houses and made it happen. Even knowing what I know now after 14 years of raising this amazing human is that I am proud of myself for making that decision. You don’t have to stay in a situation that isn’t best for you and you owe no one an explanation.
13. Try the food
I grew up in a small town with only a Sonic and a single dad. We lived on pop tarts, frozen dinners, his famous fried burritos, and spaghetti. Oh, the Little Debbies I can’t fail to mention. He did his best and I did not go hungry. However, when I started working for a firm I realized I had never had a bagel, I didn’t even know what a panini was, and I will never forget my first introduction to a half-shelled oyster. Try the food and live to the fullest even if it means you spit the oyster out and never try it again. Haha
14. Sunscreen is your friend
I am only 32 years old today and have already had to have several dark spots treated. Be kind to your skin my friends. I felt strongly enough to sprinkle this one in. Haha
15. Closure isn’t always promised
As I grow personally and professionally I have had to learn that you don’t always know what happened and why. It sometimes is what it is. When I find that things fail, fall apart, or never come to life in the way I envision I have learned to just accept it as protection. All things are working for you even if it sometimes feels like a shitshow.
16. Doing it all isn’t a badge of honor
Read that again and go get yourself some help. I sure as hell wish I would have done it sooner both personally and professionally. I bet you money that if you were to ask your mentor or hero you look up to they would tell you that they had support and help in getting to where they are.
17. Be careful when sharing your big ideas
I have had people laugh at my ideas, tell me that I am dreaming to far out of reach, and even steal my ideas and take them as their own. I dream big and I need to make sure those dreams are being shared with minds willing to see what I am truly capable of, even when I can’t. I encourage you to proceed with caution when sharing your hopes, dreams, and future plans. Again, the reason to find your true tribe of dreamers who will help you find the most favorable path towards making your dreams a reality. You can do big things!
18. Don’t wait to travel
Make it a priority and go live your life. I am not saying to be reckless and spend money you don’t have. Instead, be strategic with how you are spending your money and spend it where it counts. I know my travels with my kids and friends are something I will treasure more than a designer purse. I just value experiences more and that doesn’t make you wrong if you value something else.
19. A degree does not define you
I let not having a degree hold me back from giving my gifts to the world. God gave me the ability to think and strategically plan in a way that makes others curious. I get asked often how my brain works this way. Your gifts are unique to you! Yes, a degree is special but it isn’t always necessary to make an impact in the lives of others. As my sweet friend Suzann says. I am a driver of visions for luxurious women and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Find your it factor or something special and run with it.
20. It is ok to take up space
As a little girl, I was told a million and one times that I talked too much, or I had too many ideas and opinions. Little girls are meant to be seen not heard. F That. It took time to work through that BS belief that was placed on me, but now I get special invitations to speak on stage and impact others with my voice and ideas. Go and take up space and don’t apologize for it.
21. Meditation isn’t weird
I remember laughing and mocking meditation for the majority of my life. It wasn’t until 2020 when the pandemic hit, my thriving business came to a screeching halt, and I was home-schooling a 4th grader that I found the beautiful and life-changing gift that is meditation. Now, it is a staple to my retreats and a gift I want others to experience. Download the insight timer app, find a quiet spot, and allow yourself to explore the gift of meditation and breath work. Better yet connect with my girl Delaney for customized ones to you and your journey.
22. If they wanted to they would
I keep seeing a reel about this. One of the ways I master my time, money, and energy is by leaving doors open but not always being the one who knocks. If they wanted to come, support, see your kids, and visit they would. You don’t need to always be the one who has to maintain the relationships.
23. Write even if you can’t spell
I recall when I first started committing to my journey as an entrepreneur and creating content for socials. I would panic, and have literal breakdowns because I was afraid to post something with poor grammar or misspellings. Again, took some getting out of my own BS to shift it, and now I write with misspellings and improper grammar, and if it bothers them that bad then BYE. What I have to say and share is not less valuable because of the grammatical errors.
24. You can do hard things
Loss, divorce, legal battles, friendship issues, debt, pandemics, homeschooling, sickness, and yet still standing on solid ground. You can overcome the hard times, come out stronger, and live to share it with others. Don’t let temporary discomfort stop you from trying.
25. Not everyone loves a potty mouth
I get that it isn’t super classy but I was raised by a single sailer of a father and it is just part of who I am. One of my favorite emails to send out has the subject line that says that I have a potty mouth. When I see the people unsubscribe on that one It makes me giggle. If you can’t handle a little sailer talk then we likely should not be friends. I would unintentionally offend you. Let this be a reminder to stay true to YOU!
26. Your gut goes to shit as you get older
I am going to leave it at that but I am already feeling the effects of my age and it is what it is. Yes, I am doing all the gut health, clean eating, exercise, and vitamins. I even recently gave up my my best friend, coffee. That is all I am going to share about this mourning stage of my youth. Haha
27. Being multi-passionate is a must
After 2020 and seeing my event company struggle I committed to not having all my eggs in one basket. Diversify your income and thank me later. I am here if you want strategic support in making it happen.
28. Values are your GPS
If you want to create a successful life on your terms then you have to know what you value. Not what society is telling you success is. Get clear on what is important and stay focused. Here is my free Core Values Workbook where I guide you thought this process.
29. “Intention without action is mute”- Danielle Throckmorton
It's sorta my signature quote. You can intend this or intend that, but without action, you are in the same place you were. If you want expansion and change then you have to start taking action even when it is scary. Growth is on the other side of your hesitation and fear. It is time to start betting on yourself.
30. Support is the difference maker
Whether you invest in a business strategist, life coach, therapist, retreats, or a physical trainer it is in that investment (skin in the game) and support (accountability and tools) that the shift happens. I have seen it time and time again in my own growth and expansion journey.
31. Marriage is like having a baby that never leaves diapers
I get that sounds harsh, but hang with me. I love my husband so freaking much, and I have learned that it takes commitment, intentionality, healing, willingness to grow together, communication, and more to keep it healthy and thriving. It is something that you need to tend to on the regular. Just like anything else in life if you don’t nurture it won’t survive. Reminder, to make time for what is most important to you.
32. Happiness is a result of your circumstances
You can’t always control your circumstances so hear me out if you are someone who says “ I just want to be happy” Well my friend let me shed a little wisdom since I am a whole year older today. Happiness is circumstantial, but JOY can be intentionally curated by taking intuitional action daily. Choose to infuse JOY into your day-to-day. Don’t keep waiting to be happy and instead make it happen.
Shoot me a message on IG or Facebook letting me know what resonated with you the most.
Danielle Throckmorton is a business strategist, coach, speaker and luxury retreat host. A two-time NextGen Under 30 award winner, Danielle now offers business strategy and coaching services to female entrepreneurs through 1:1 mentoring, workshops and retreats.